If a man cannot do that, he is not ready to be a husband.
And if he is not ready to be a husband, dating him could only have a sorrowful outcome.
It is easy to see only the positive in the other person and completely ignore any warning signs. It would be foolish to date someone and not even consider the possible outcomes.
Not only would it be foolish, but downright selfish.
Since moving back to West Africa in 2007, more married than single men have attempted to court me.
Lord knows my Gates Millennium Scholar ass was definitely too intelligent to be one of them.
So, finally, I came to the conclusion that premarital sex wasn't all it's cracked up to be. Often a girl will justify sex by saying, "But I love him," even if she doesn't really want to go through with it. It's been said that, "Girls use sex to get love; guys use love to get sex." This is how it works: the girl is picturing marrying the guy some day; the guy is picturing everything he wants to do with the girl before he goes back to tell his buddies about it.
If you happen to make it through living in West Africa without ever being courted by a married man then I envy you. Before I made the move from NY, I was sure and certain that I would never ever be one of those girls.
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